Trauma and Healing: The wrong mindset can cost you your peace

When you experience life there are few things which retain in our subconscious mind regarding people or situations, these can both be good and bad. When we heal, we look into ourselves a little deeper as to why we form our narratives, or the way we are. We form a narrative around the experiences through childhood trauma, getting bullied in high school, emotional abuse, loss of a loved one etc. which causes low self-esteem, anxious attachment styles, anxiety etc.

Healing is the process of leaving all the past baggage we faced for developing our self-worth and self-esteem, the value we provide as an individual to our family, to our work place and the world. It mainly involves developing a fulfilling and conscious future for ourselves.

Trauma usually gets stored in our bodies as somatic memory which results in a reflex behavior when triggered. At that moment we react instead of responding to our surroundings. So healing requires training our mindset to cut into the reality of a situation instead of running our own narrative around the circumstance. It requires looking as the 3rd person instead of taking things personally.

In the end you are not a vessel so that others fill their happiness for you or vice versa. You can either play a role of a victim and go on with your life being unsatisfied or overcome the mindset and put in the work to have things go your way. Healing doesn't mean that you won't be sad anymore and that you will reach a constant state of higher serotonin levels. It means you know that there are good days and the bad days and you know that you can fulfill yourself through self-love and self-care.

When you place your own happiness, your home and make a safe place in yourself, it won't walk away or leave you at any point of time. It's always good to have a supportive circle of friends and family to be there for you, but in the end you walk alone, so make sure you are there for yourself.